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dark night of the soul

Item No. C1151-04

obelisk (far left) - 3"x8", burns up to 80 hours

 

size: obelisk

 

price: $18.00

 

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quote on label:

"There is no sun without shadow,

 and it is essential to know the night."

—Albert Camus

 

color: dusky blue with black swirls

scent: violet, eucalyptus & lilac

gemstone: pyrite

 

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About This Candle

Sooner or later, we all experience dark nights of the soul: a spiritual and/or emotional crisis that feels profoundly hopeless and frightening. Sometimes more than once. For some, the catalyst is illness, or a death in the family, or divorce, or simply (if anything so profoundly hard can be "simple") a series of events that shatter the very foundation of your life. As someone who has been there, and may be there again, what I want to reassure you is threefold:

1.) You are not alone;

2.) This is a natural part of life that needs to be honored; and

3.) This, too, shall pass.

Carla Blazek, creator, zena moon

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Last updated 3/28/2005

 

Icon  Books

1.   Dark Nights of the Soul: A Guide to Finding Your Way Through Life's Ordeals

    by Thomas Moore (Hardcover - 2004)

    Avg. Customer Rating: 4.5 out of 5 stars

 

   From Amazon.com: When it comes to spiritual growth, we humans are solar-seeking beings; eager for the bright lights of clarity and the bliss of illumination. Paradoxically, we all need to walk through the shadow of the dark night in order to discover a life worth living, according to psychotherapist and spiritual commentator Thomas Moore. Unlike depression, which is more of an emotional state, Moore calls the dark night a slow transformation process, which is fueled by a profound period of doubt, disorientation and questioning. Ultimately, a journey into the dark night will reshape the very meaning of your life. As a self-proclaimed "lunar type," Moore is comfortable leading his clients and readers into the shadows, where ambiguities and mysteries lurk around every corner. He describes the dark night journey in stages, starting with feeling distant from your life even as you continue to go through the motions. The second phase is "liminality," meaning living on the threshold between the known self and the unknown self. This is perhaps the most uncomfortable phase as the dark night may "take you away from the cultivation and persona you have developed in your education and from family learning," he explains. After dwelling in this murky darkness, there's a stage of re-incorporation, in which one integrates the profound inner transitions into daily life. Like a tour guide to the underworld, Moore leads readers through all these phases, offering tools and rituals for making the journey more tolerable or at least more meaningful. He also speaks to the many arenas and stages of life in which we might find ourselves stumbling through the dark, with chapters on marriage, parenting, sexuality, creativity and health. The scope is ambitious, and at times the structure seems disjointed--but this is perhaps Moore’s best contribution since Care of the Soul, proving once again that he is a wise and formidable spiritual teacher.
 

 

2.  When Things Fall Apart : Heart Advice for Difficult Times

    by Pema Chödrön (Paperback - 2000)

    Avg. Customer Rating: 4.5 out of 5 stars

 

   From Amazon.com: How can we go on living "when things fall apart"–-when we are overcome by pain, fear, and anxiety? Pema Chödrön’s answer to that question contains some spectacularly good news: there is a fundamental happiness readily available to each one of us, no matter how difficult things seem to be. To find it, according to traditional Buddhist teaching, we must learn to stop running from suffering and instead actually learn to approach it-–fearlessly, compassionately, and with curiosity. This radical practice enables us to use all situations, even very painful ones, as means for discovering the truth and love that are utterly indestructible.

 

 

3.  The Dark Night of the Soul : A Psychiatrist Explores the Connection Between Darkness and Spiritual Growth

    by Gerald G. May (Paperback - 2005)

    Avg. Customer Rating:

 

   From Amazon.com: "Hello darkness my old friend, I've come to talk with you again." These

   lyrics from Simon & Garfunkel's famous song could be the guiding theme of this excellent offering by psychiatrist and spiritual counselor May. As May delves into the meaning and purpose of "the dark night of the soul," we come to see it as a comforting and necessary friend, ushering in a time of transformation, rather than a gloomy blackness to avoid. In order to illuminate the dark night, May draws upon the lives of the Carmelite mystics, John of the Cross and Teresa of Avila, as well as psychiatric research and scripture. Like the contemporary scholars of psychiatry, both Teresa and John had early insights into the unconscious dimension of life that goes on beneath our awareness-an obscure and mysterious arena that they both called "the dark." Since humans are so skilled at denial--especially denying the power of their compulsions and attachments--they would never enter into this spiritual night of reckoning if they could see in advance what it would entail. This is why we need the darkness in front of us. May, who also wrote Addiction & Grace, eventually moves into a strong discussion about depression and addiction, showing why the dark night is necessary to overcome both. Ultimately, he becomes a messenger of hope, reminding readers that every dark night brings the sweet dawn of awakening. With its clear writing and strong psychological foundation, this is a relevant resource for readers of all spiritual persuasions.

 

 

 

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1.   Bare

   ~ Annie Lennox (Audio CD)

    Original Release Date: 2003

    Avg. Customer Rating: 4.5 out of 5 stars

    

From Amazon.com: Annie Lennox's first album of original songs in 11 years is a stylish tour de force that showcases the former Eurythmics chanteuse in all her chilly, shimmering splendor. Her formidable voice is still a supple and intriguing instrument, lithely shape-shifting between emotions, personas, and musical forms. Lennox moves effortlessly from the sparse and pristine lament of "A Thousand Beautiful Things" to the deceptively simple "Pavement Cracks," a solemn ballad that is transformed by electro dance beats that recall some of the best of the Eurythmics. But Lennox's quixotic voice is best utilized as an old-school soul instrument; she makes a metaphoric journey to Motown on "Hurting Time," a reflective ballad could have been lifted off a Miracles album. "Honesty," shows the Scottish diva at her well-mannered best, occupying the same sophisticated space formerly held by Carly Simon.

 

 

2.   The Nephilim

    ~ Fields of the Nephilim (Audio CD)

    Original Release Date: 1988

    Avg. Customer Rating: 4.9 out of 5 stars

  

A zena moon Essential CD

From Amazon.com: As the album begins, it seems as though The Nephilim picks up where Dawnrazor left off, with consecutive tracks of potent Gothic guitar rock. "Endemoniada," "The Watchman" and "Moonchild" are all excellent as Goth singles. However as the album progresses the true genius of Fields of the Nephilim begins to emerge. The minimal, soulful "Celebrate" represents the best performance Carl McCoy had given up to that point. The effort becomes even more inspired as the album wraps with "Love Under Will" and "Last Exit for the Lost." There may not be two other songs in the entire history of the genre that are more epic than these; this is what Goth was meant to be--beautiful, mysterious, manic, edgy, apocalyptic and truly grand.

 

 

3.   Mozart: Requiem

   ~ W.A. Mozart, Peter Schreier (Audio CD)

    Original Release Date: 1990

    Avg. Customer Rating: 5 out of 5 stars

 

From Amazon.com: This was the first recording of Requiem I ever heard (on vinyl, no less) and I will have no other. Schreier conducts a very dark, heavy recording which does not release it's hold on you for a second. That doesn't mean it all sounds the same--the solos are especially clear--but it does mean that you never forget that the Requiem is a mass for the dead. Theo Adam's Tuba Mirum is breathtaking.

 

 

 

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1.   Under the Sand

     Starring: Charlotte Rampling

     (2001) ~ DVD

     Avg. Customer Rating: 5.0 out of 5 stars

    

A zena moon Essential Movie

From Amazon.com: François Ozon's Under the Sand revolves around a tender, frightening contrast not easily forgotten: the dead live on only as long as we remember them. Marie (a luminous Charlotte Rampling) and Jean (Bruno Cremer), a middle-aged couple, are on vacation. As they ready the beach house almost wordlessly, a long-standing, intense love is immediately understood. While Marie naps on the shore, Jean goes off for a swim from which he never returns. Six months later, back in her empty Paris apartment, Marie goes about her life as if Jean is still there with her, reading in bed, massaging her feet, sitting at the breakfast table. At dinner parties and lunch dates, her close friends are visibly appalled her behavior. It becomes clear that Marie's place in society is increasingly precarious with a ghost at her side: her husband's bank accounts remain frozen because no body has been identified, her lectures at the university end abruptly in silence, her untimely laughter frightens a new lover. Ozon does not manipulate the viewer with surprise endings or try to charm with gags. Instead, we are intimately drawn into Marie's refusal to let go and her awful panic as Jean begins to fade.

 

 

2.   White Oleander (Full Screen)

    Starring: Alison Lohman, Michelle Pfeiffer

    (2002) ~ DVD

    Avg. Customer Rating: 4.1 out of 5 stars

 

From Amazon.com: Fine performances and sensitive direction keep White Oleander from being a routine tearjerker. Adapted from Janet Fitch's bestseller (an Oprah's Book Club selection), this hard-edged drama boasts a reputable cast, but 23-year-old newcomer Alison Lohman steals the film from her A-list costars. As a troubled teen whose controlling mother (Michelle Pfeiffer) has been jailed for murder, Lohman is the film's heart and soul, bouncing between foster homes and rushing toward independence in a world of disappointing adults. After surviving episodic stints with a trashy born-again Christian (Robin Wright Penn), a suicidal housewife (Renée Zellweger), and a Russian immigrant (Zvetlana Efremova), she finds comfort with another outcast (Patrick Fugit), leaving behind the mothers who failed her. Making his feature directorial debut, British stage and TV veteran Peter Kosminsky creates a showcase for formidable actresses, each given moments to shine. White Oleander lacks the emotional depth of Fitch's novel, but it speaks volumes about the delicate balance of freedom and responsibility.

 

 

3.   The Deer Hunter

    Starring: Robert De Niro, Christopher Walken

    (1978) ~ DVD

    Avg. Customer Rating: 4.1 out of 5 stars

 

From Amazon.com: Winner of five Academy Awards, including Best Picture and Best Director, The Deer Hunter is simultaneously an audacious directorial conceit and one of the greatest films ever made about friendship and the personal impact of war. Like Apocalypse Now, it's hardly a conventional battle film--the soldier's experience was handled with greater authenticity in Platoon--but its depiction of war on an intimate scale packs a devastatingly dramatic punch. Director Michael Cimino may be manipulating our emotions with masterful skill, but he does it in a way that stirs the soul and pinches our collective nerves with graphic, high-intensity scenes of men under life-threatening duress. Although Russian-roulette gambling games were not a common occurrence during the Vietnam War, they're used here as a metaphor for the futility of the war itself. To the viewer, they become unforgettably intense rites of passage for the best friends--Pennsylvania steelworkers played by Robert De Niro, John Savage, and Oscar winner Christopher Walken--who may survive or perish during their tour through a tropical landscape of hell. Back home, their loved ones must cope with the war's domestic impact, and in doing so they allow The Deer Hunter to achieve a rare combination of epic storytelling and intimate, heart-rending drama.

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