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honoring sorrow


Item No. C1149-03

large pillar (not shown) - 3"x7", burns up to 100 hours

size: large pillar

 

price: $22.00

 

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quote on label:

"Cradle your wounded places

 like precious babies."

—SARK

 

color: blue

scent: violet & rain

gemstones: lapis lazuli, yellow jasper

 

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About This Candle

When I first read this quote during a time of profound upheaval in my life, I experienced a flood of grace and relief. I was in the process of changing everything--career, friendships, my support system, beliefs, patterns--and for a long time had been feeling confused, fearful and impatient. But when I read this quote, I realized that the sorrow and grief I felt needed to be acknowledged and tenderly held, rather than wished away. The truth is, we all experience wounding in our lives: the death of a friend, losing a loved one, the dark night of the soul, grieving past choices, developing disease--just to name a few. I created this candle because I believe that we need to honor sorrow as part of our lifepath, to cradle our wounded places like precious babies, to practice compassionate self-care in the shadows as well as the light. May this candle comfort and help you hold your precious Self as well. Carla Blazek, creator, zena moon

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Our Recommended Books, Music & Movies for Honoring Sorrow

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Last updated 5/14/2005

 

Icon  Books

1.  Hannah's Gift : Lessons from a Life Fully Lived

    by Maria Housden (Paperback - 2003)

    Avg. Customer Rating: 5.0 out of 5 stars

    

    From Amazon.com: Hannah's Gift addresses a mother's deepest fear: the death of a child. Amazingly, Maria Housden's skillful writing and mature understanding of grief make this a spiritually inspiring story about life. Housden is eager for us to learn all the lessons Hannah offered while she was dying of cancer, such as wearing red shoes that click and sparkle when you walk and never letting a doctor touch you without knowing their first name. For the reader, however, the most compelling character is Housden, a mother who endures the unfathomable. One morning Housden looks at her face in the mirror and realizes, "The grief that once threatened to swallow me up had found a home in my bones. My suffering wasn't something I was going to have to let go of; it became part of what I had to offer, part of who I am." Sure, you're going to cry. But it's the kind of heart-cracking-open cry that comes from an abundance of feelings: sorrow for this wise and gut-honest narrator; tenderness for Will, the loyal older brother that Hannah left behind; and love for this baffling, wonderful life that gives us gifts like Hannah.

 

 

2.   When Things Fall Apart : Heart Advice for Difficult Times

    by Pema Chödrön (Paperback - 2000)

    Avg. Customer Rating: 4.5 out of 5 stars

 

    From Amazon.com: How can we go on living "when things fall apart"--when we are overcome by pain, fear, and anxiety? Pema Chödrön’s answer to that question contains some spectacularly good news: there is a fundamental happiness readily available to each one of us, no matter how difficult things seem to be. To find it, according to traditional Buddhist teaching, we must learn to stop running from suffering and instead actually learn to approach it--fearlessly, compassionately, and with curiosity. This radical practice enables us to use all situations, even very painful ones, as means for discovering the truth and love that are utterly indestructible.

 

 

3.   Chronic Sorrow : A Living Loss

    by Susan Roos (Paperback - 2002)

    Avg. Customer Rating: 5.0 out of 5 stars

    

    From Amazon.com: Chronic Sorrow is a natural grief reaction to losses that are not final, but continue to be present in the life of the griever. This innovative and insightful book views chronic sorrow from a life-span perspective and explores its effects on those experiencing significant losses with no foreseeable end. Treatment methods are addressed, and the author identifies goals and situations common to chronic sorrow and offers suggestions on how to handle them. Additionally, Roos proposes a model of chronic sorrow, discusses the impact of this lifelong condition on families, and proposes meaningful directions for research.
 

 

 

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1.   It'll End in Tears

   ~ This Mortal Coil (Audio CD)

    Original Release Date: 1998

    Avg. Customer Rating: 5.0 out of 5 stars

 

A zena moon Essential CD

From Amazon.com: The debut release by this superstar-Goth outfit shined (and still does) in all its glorious misery and despair. Just how can it be so beautiful? the listener wonders. For one thing, when the project is conceptualized by 4AD Records brain-man Ivo Watts-Russell and includes artists from groundbreaking U.K. bands such as Cocteau Twins, Magazine and Dead Can Dance, and when a chunk of the material is from musical heavyweights such as Tim Buckley (the haunting "Song to the Siren"), Alex Chilton of Big Star (the devastating "Holocaust" and the heartbreakingly lovely "Kangaroo"), and Colin Newman of Wire (the rockin' "Not Me"), you're bound to come up with something that will be remembered and revered by old-school Goths everywhere. This is lush, hypnotic, astonishingly beautiful.

 

 

2.   The Piano: Original Music From The Film By Jane Campion [SOUNDTRACK]

    ~ Michael Nyman (Composer) (Audio CD)

    Original Release Date: 1993

    Avg. Customer Rating: 5.0 out of 5 stars

 

From Amazon.com: Michael Nyman came of age as a classical composer in the radical London of the late '60s. His work embraces multiple vernaculars (jazz, avant garde, conceptual art) and helped cement the foundation of what came to be known as minimalism. Decades into his career, Nyman's score to Jane Campion's film The Piano made him a star. The movie's themes of colonialism and silence (its protagonist, portrayed by Holly Hunter, cannot speak) were perfectly aligned with his longtime interests in world and ambient music. Horn players assist members of the Munich Philharmonic Orchestra in fleshing out Nyman's stately, hymn-like motifs. On the more heavily orchestrated cues, sentimentality wins out over minimalist restraint; the best tracks feature Nyman on solo piano, playing the rudimentary, faux period repertoire of Hunter's character.

 

 

3.   Lady Sings the Blues: The Billie Holiday Story, Vol. 4

    ~ Billie Holiday (Audio CD)

    Original Release Date: 1995

    Avg. Customer Rating: 4.0 out of 5 stars

 

From Amazon.com: Lady Sings the Blues includes material from two fine small-group sessions recorded in 1955 and '56, with arrangements provided by clarinetist Tony Scott and excellent support from trumpeter Charlie Shavers, tenorist Budd Johnson, and a young Kenny Burrell on guitar. The standards of the first session come alive with Holiday's ability to bring complex shadings to familiar material, while the later session includes some of her most personal and emotionally charged material. Her voice has a searing intensity on the late recording of "Strange Fruit," and there are powerful versions of "God Bless the Child" and "Lady Sings the Blues," songs written with Holiday's own lyrics. Lady Sings the Blues concludes with an intimate view of Lady Day at work, a 15-minute rehearsal tape of her working through "God Bless the Child" with Scott at the piano.

 

 

 

Icon  Movies

1.   Under the Sand

    Starring: Charlotte Rampling, Bruno Cremer

     (2001) ~ DVD

     Avg. Customer Rating: 5.0 out of 5 stars

 

From Amazon.com: François Ozon's Under the Sand revolves around a tender, frightening contrast not easily forgotten: the dead live on only as long as we remember them. Marie (a luminous Charlotte Rampling) and Jean (Bruno Cremer), a middle-aged couple, are on vacation. As they ready the beach house almost wordlessly, a long-standing, intense love is immediately understood. While Marie naps on the shore, Jean goes off for a swim from which he never returns. Six months later, back in her empty Paris apartment, Marie goes about her life as if Jean is still there with her, reading in bed, massaging her feet, sitting at the breakfast table. At dinner parties and lunch dates, her close friends are visibly appalled her behavior. It becomes clear that Marie's place in society is increasingly precarious with a ghost at her side: her husband's bank accounts remain frozen because no body has been identified, her lectures at the university end abruptly in silence, her untimely laughter frightens a new lover. Ozon does not manipulate the viewer with surprise endings or try to charm with gags. Instead, we are intimately drawn into Marie's refusal to let go and her awful panic as Jean begins to fade.

 

 

2.   Truly, Madly, Deeply

     Starring: Juliet Stevenson, Alan Rickman

     (1991) ~ DVD

     Avg. Customer Rating: 4.5 out of 5 stars

 

From Amazon.com: Truly, Madly, Deeply is an intelligent, moving, and deeply funny story about love and death. Nina (Juliet Stevenson), a scatterbrained professional translator, has lost the love of her life, Jamie (Die Hard's Alan Rickman). As her life (and her flat) slowly falls to pieces, she's inundated by an endless stream of repair men and eligible suitors. But rather than go on with life, Nina dwells on her dead love, slumped at her piano, endlessly playing half of a Bach duet. Then, in a truly magical sequence, his cello suddenly joins her melody ... and Jamie's back from the dead.

 

At first it's bliss. (Think of the superficially similar blockbuster Ghost--only with real people instead of pretty faces Demi Moore and Patrick Swayze.) But Nina gradually realizes it's a thoroughly real Jamie who's back, complete with every annoying, argumentative fault she'd conveniently forgotten. (He might be dead, he explains, but he still attends political meetings.) Moreover, he has to hide whenever any of the living are around. And he's constantly ice-cold. And he invites his dead pals to her place at all hours. What's a living woman to do?

 

Director Anthony Minghella went on to create the melodramatic period piece The English Patient--but in this film, he shows a far more sensitive, subtle touch. The photography is brilliant, capturing the simple beauties of suburban London. And the wonderfully acted characters, quirky and all too real, will keep you laughing--and always guessing what will happen next.

 

 

3.   Till Human Voices Wake Us

    Starring: Guy Pearce, Helena Bonham Carter

    (2002) ~ DVD

    Avg. Customer Rating: 4.4 out of 5 stars

 

From Amazon.com: A ghostly romance from Australia. Guy Pearce is a brooding psychiatrist who must journey back to his family's summer home, to bury his father and settle some lingering childhood traumas. Helena Bonham Carter is the mysterious woman he meets on his journey, twice: once in a fleeting encounter on a train, again as she takes a dive off a trestle into a river. By the way, she's amnesiac--Guy Pearce just can't shake that Memento feel. For viewers susceptible to this kind of thing, director Michael Petroni's lofty literary tone might just work (the breathless pauses are broken by quotations from T.S. Eliot); otherwise, it will look like a skeletal take on a potentially interesting subject. The two fine actors give it a go, and they're always good to look at, but finally one wonders what they saw in this very slim proposition.

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